No more “Bad days”

The article below was originally posted on my other blog site www.mackaonline.com 

 

 

Pondering the “What if I’m wrong?” question of personal development, whilst it is generally seen as a bad thing to do this as it can often lead to indecision and lack of action, it is good if you can question your decisions without creating this effect.

And as I find myself surrounded by a lot of people who regard personal development as a “touchy feely” waste of time, I thought I’d ponder this question anyway (especially after a couple of years of applying personal development philosophies to my life), and one of the main conclusions I have come to from this is even if I am following the wrong path (which by the way I don’t think anyone following a path of self development is wrong) is I no longer have the cliche “Bad days”.

Don’t get me wrong, I still have days where things go wrong or situations frustrate me, but they are not “bad” days, rather it’s just something that has to be worked through, I’m finding that by taking responsibility onto myself for my life or taking the view “what happens in my life is my doing”, no one else is the cause of my problems/challenges (although they may be the symptom or result of these issues).

This attitude/view can be developed from several different perspectives, from just simple positive thinking, to taking responsibility for your own life, through to The “Law of Attraction” or subjective reality concepts of life, but at the end of the day it does not matter which way you approach it or what theology you use, the end effect is when things go wrong, you are not having a “Bad day”, it’s just another situation that needs to dealt with, further to this it was not “someone else’s fault”, the world is not against us or any of the other excuses used to use to explain why life was so hard and why I would have “Bad days” in the past.

I do not think it matters how you get to this point, but rather that you get to the point where things are not bad, they just need to be looked at a different way or they are just problems to find a solutions to (OK that’s the Engineer in me coming out) or just a simple “it will be better in the morning” you’ll find that you’re whole life improves, there are something’s that I upset and annoy me, but in general I lead a happier life.

Another aspect of this I’ve noticed is the downward spiral people get into when something goes wrong, where something goes wrong in the morning (or anytime during the day really) and if you get caught in “Bad day” syndrome or the world is against me or you believe someone else is to blame for this, it seems to get worse, I cannot remember if I did this previously (I’m fairly sure I would have), but I’ve seen many people have something go wrong, and even when that situation is under control, they drag their own day down because of it, even to the point of generating new problems to keep the “Bad day” going.

When you stop pushing your problems outwards at “the world” and accept that it is your responsibility to deal with your own life and no one else’s, the world is suddenly a much nicer place.

All in all not having “Bad days” probable answers my question “What if I’m wrong?”, by saying the result is good so who cares if I’m wrong, I don’t hurt others (I tend to help others anyway) and I’m happy.

  

Looking back over this article, it is a little disjointed and hard to follow, I have touched on several subjects which should probably be split up and expanded into several other articles, but I’ve decided to leave it as I first wrote it and I’ll come back and write some further articles on some of the subjects in this article sometime soon.